After one dies his/her family don't do make up (women) and shave (men), don't wear light color clothes (they usually wear black and dark ones)and they don't hold or take part in parties. { As my dad is not one who is strictly limited to traditions and is so open minded he let me go to my friend's wedding party and said that I even didn't need to ask for his permission and that I should keep on my life and be happy. He is so great.}These traditions doesn't last for a long time recently. But how do we put an end to this? Well, a close relative usually takes men and women to a barbershop or a beauty salon and buys some piece of cloth in light color.
After the first 40th day of one's death, the family of the dead one should go to his/her home on some occasions. These occasions are: On first holiday and on first new year that one is dead family of his/her go to dead one's home and host the guest who come over to let the dead one's family know that they are sad in their sadness and that they are not alone. As these occasions are happy events the family of the dead one host the guests with date, tea, walnut, sweetmeat and fruits.
First Ramadan (this one is a bit different usually most of the close relatives give parties each night for the dead ones family, a month is 30 days but maybe only a few people invite the dead one's family for breaking their fast).
And first anniversary of death. First anniversary of death is again so expensive and time consuming. Because as the first day of death, the dead one's family, relatives, friends and neighbor go to the cemetery, mosque and give dinner to a lot of people.
If the dead one is young his/her family may host people at home with tea, date and walnut every anniversary. This will not last forever of course.
Now can say that the second part of the long story of one's death in my country is done by doing all of these!
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