Marriage: Suiting

I've been far away from blogging!

Whether one wants to marry her boyfriend or her suitor (that she still didn't meet) the boys family should come to suit the girl. Here again some families don't bring the groom/ suitor at first session!!!! Too weird I know. Imagine that boy's mom and sisters come to see you and if the like you they will tell the boy! This sucks to me and is one of the reasons I never wanted to marry a suitor! Some people think it is OK but I don't. I don't blame anyone though, this is the tradition. Some other families may bring the groom/ suitor too specially if one is going to marry her boyfriend, boy comes in the first session too. Girls family usually host the boy's with tea, fruits, nuts and sweets.

When the suitor's family comes the girl stays in kitchen or goes back to kitchen after the quick greetings. Then after every one sits down and talks for a minute or two the girl brings tea. That is a tradition that girl/ bride brings tea!

Then the elders talk about common things and give each other some information about both boy's and girl's background like education, job, age, salary, etc.

First session is done!

If boy's family likes the girl they will call in a day or two to ask the girl's family that if their answer is yes or no! If they say yes too, both families will arrange a second session! This usually happens if the boy and the girl are not boyfriend and girlfriend but if they are most of the things can happen at the first session.

The rest of this post usually happens at first session in the couples were in a relationship and at the second session if they never met before.

If the boy is a suitor and not a boyfriend of the girl he will come this time to see and talk to the girl. Boy's family will bring a bouquet of flower,sweets and a piece of gold or jewelry (depending on the boy's financial status). Here are some pics:

Sweets

Sweets ready to serve

Flower

Jewelry

The jewelry is usually a ring but it is not considered as a wedding ring. It can be a necklace or a bracelet too. If the boy leaves the gold and girl picks it up then it is considered as a yes and after that we will move to the next step which i will write about the on the next post hopefully!

At the end of this sessions couples are not considered as fiances yet! If we want to put a name on the coupled on this session we can say that the girl id the betrothed of the boy.